It sounds like you have a great start on the DB. One of the crucial points is starting some 180's. Think of some positive things you can do differently than you have in the past.
Also, try to avoid the sarcasm with your H. If he starts to "spew" try to validate him. Even if his feelings/point of view sounds far fetched, it is his reality. No one likes to be told they are wrong. He has to realize these things himself, but he won't if he feels he has to justify himself with you.
I know it is mind boggling how he can act as if nothing is wrong. Sorry, but he is most likely like so many others. He has convinced himself that he is not doing anything wrong. He is convinced that he know longer loves you and now loves someone else.
Your job is tricky. You have to remind him of who you are-the woman he fell in love with and married. You have to do this subtly so that you don't appear needy or in pursuit of him.
The good news is, he is still in the house and you still have lots of contact with him. You still have an opportunity to show him your changes and draw him back to you.
Start using what you've learned in the 5 love Languages too. A man who feels loved does not have to look elsewhere for validation.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
