Breathe. She had a convo with our DJ the ONLY person in mYh's corner. This DJ, who truly cares for me and my H both, scolded me the other day for "being a b to my H and not letting him take the kids trick r treating." he totally defends my H and loves him a lot even though he knows he is having an affair and was verbally abusive. This DJ is an extremely non judgemental stoner-live and let live dude. My mom had lunch with DJ and he told her how unhappy my H was with his OW and that he was very depressed about seeing her. My Mom asked if he was going to dump her and the DJ said, probably.
My mom told me this story to see if I was prepared to go through with my divorce. She wants me to be sure so she advised I wait more than the six months. Wait until the tax year clears. She said there would be no point in divorcing a misreable man, only a man in LaLaLand because I would not get as much in the settlement. My Mom is all business but she knows I am all heart and that I will always love my H. Sigh.
Then she confided that there was much more to my H then she ever let on. That this affair was not the first. That many times she may have been drunk but that he took other women home and now she believes he was cheating many months before this affair. I think so too from the way the bartenders speakof him.
Last edited by mkultra; 10/27/0711:09 PM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
