One day at a time, #3

[SueS]

Luv-

My H is still at home, but the communication isn't really there all the time and I, like you, at times get nervous about seeing him. The other night I was nervous because our D3 was out of town and it would just be the two of us. My stomach tightened when it was time for him to come home. Let me tell you this....Just as I heard him pulling in the garage it hit me. I had no reason to be nervous. I am not perfect, but I was not the one in this R to decide to have an A. I am not the one who should be uncomfortable. It's not fair. My H walked through the door and instead of waiting to see what his mood was like, I set the mood. I was nice. I asked how his day was....etc. He ended up being the one who was nervous. Don't be nervous.

I understand you're struggling with what she's told you. But how do you know it's all true? She doesn't care about you. If she did, she would have gone out of his life long ago. She's going to do and say what is best for her and her sitch.

Try to be upbeat. I'm not saying over the top, but friendly. At the very least, to keep things okay for your kids. So they feel comfortable. Our D is only 3. She's noticing things and that absolutely tears me apart inside. I try for her!

Have a good day. Sounds like you have fun plans!

SueS