Help me thru this sitch

[Pudmuddle]

Hi Heimlich,

Joan, be patient on folks commenting. Everybody here is hurt to one degree or another. Shouting me, me, me isn't all that attractive, eh? By the way, is that something you do in personal life or just driven by the fact that you want help yesterday? Patience. Cultivate it for your sitch or go insane (or at least mildly nuts).

Well yes I was sorely in need of someone to talk to yesterday, so I apologize to all of my fellow hurtees. And yes, it was something I did do in the past because I didn't know how to get H to pay attention to me. I have been working on that, and apparently still have some latent, as you call it, (LOL) diarrhea of the brain on that. I'll continue to work on that.

We had a fairly good day to day, altho he lost his debit card an immediately accused me for taking it. ??? I said"Why would I want to do that?" and then he said it was just a question. So I could feel verbal vomit coming up(ew lots of bodily functions today), and I quickly tried to db and said"you need to look inside yourself and quit blaming me". Then I started to go for my walk and he grabbed my elbow and said, "It was a question that's all, and it was the first thought that came into my mind"

I put my hand on his heart and patted him and I said "Just take care of you", then went for my walk. After I returned I started just merrily asking him questions about the garage doors(we are trying to sand and paint them) and he said "I'm really sorry for thinking that, it was not the first thing that came into my mind, but I did think it and I am sorry". I said"that's cool, and thanks for acknolwedging that". Then we happily started sanding the garage door together. Whee.

Don't lump us all together.

Normally I don't lump all men together, I try to carefully watch that, because I do not believe all men are evil, even with all that is going on.

Yes we did swang together, but really not with any couples and he and I only were with one other person each separately. He does not see this as a continuation, because he admitted he cheated(behind my back things) and that he thinks he loves her. Even if you swing cheating is not allowed. Hope that makes sense.

Thanks BD, I always appreciate your gentle reminders.