Well I'm back in...but....

[Betterman]

I'm not sure that she is having an EA. And it's part of my DBing strategy: be a better man for her than the others could be by being there for her. Her mom recently passed away, which was a large concern of mine: would I try to support her and be there for her or just leave her alone and let her come to me? All of those questions were answered when it actually happened and I was just THERE when she needed me.

I even had to walk away from the situation a few times during the wake so I could regroup because she was not taking the time to introduce me to people when they spoke with her. I felt very put out by that and get a bit angry at her for not introducing me at all to anyone. It was as if she was not acknowledging the fact that I was her husband. BUT, I "manned-up" and took a walk outside, got my breath, paced about for a bit and walked it off, because I knew that the situation was not about ME it was about HER and her mom dying. I was a realist and just let it the hell go.

Later on that night I got a very earnest "thank you" from her for helping her out during that time esp with the kids. I could tell that this meant alot to her and had to think "SCORE!" Hey, all the points I can get with her are good ones. It's not like I'm using this as an opportunity to just score points, though...please don't think that. I genuinely want to be there for her and love her enuf to help out in all ways.

And as far as getting her a replacement bracelet, that's not gonna happen for a couple of reasons. That would mean I would have to ask her to take the other one off, which would blow my cover. Plus she does have another wrist you know! So she'd prob just leave the other one on anyhow and put mine on her other wrist. Also, I am not in any sort of financial shape to spend money on that. This separation took a large financial toll on us and we're trying to clean all of that up now. Maybe for Xmas.

I do think that she is moving away from whoever this is. But the damn thing still sits there on her wrist to this day.