I started to post last night but realized what a complicated issue this is. Two things, this is a personal decision that the LBS has to eventually come down to deciding. This was a life-altering decision ....but I realized as a young girl that sex for me was unfullfilling unless there was love. Thankfully, I didn't have to learn this the hard way.
One's personal decision will be based on lots of variables in these cases. And the variables are dependent on their individual MLC'ER. My personal opinion is; you won't know the outcome unless you try it. And you may not ever be truly able to move forward one way or the other w/o knowing. It would be horrible to have regrets.
I attempted to deal with the cake-eating. It made me feel worse and I suffered more hurt. But it also helped me to understand more about him. This helped me to move forward for myself and to not settle for less.
If it had worked, I would be dealing with a different situation. Either way, I know, w/o regrets. I feel as if I made an 'informed' decision. LOL. The hurt was horrible but living with authenticity is a much more peaceful decision.
