I think extreme drop outs are rare too - but they do exist. I also think they can be the more extreme MLCers [although that is not invariable] BND, Shades, and Hopefloats all had pretty much drop outs and I think there are more [correct me if I am wrong] My h is a dropout, but I have not discouraged this, because I didn't really want this crazy person around.
I think perhaps more would be drop outs if they could - but equally, some are emotionally incapable of that degree of detachedness, and insist on having their MLC all over and around their spouse.
I think that reconnection may be harder for drop outs, because they have been away for so long. I have seen my once in 9 months . . . .and prior to that it was 5 months . . .
