It might help if, along with the "it hurts me when you talk like that", you add in a very specific "but if you put it like [this], i dont mind"
Hm. Will have to try that. Depending on his mood (and the day), he's pretty open to convos on self-improvement.
May be awhile before I try that. He's been in a funk the last couple days, and been touchier because of it. No big deal, just grumpier. Had a not-so-fun history-rehashing last night. Ah, well...he needed to talk, and I understand that.
In general, tho, we do fight much better than we used to. It's less intense, more productive. Some validating on both sides. If we can't find a good mutual resolution, often the issue is just dropped.
Ah, well...he needed to talk, and I understand that.
