Just getting started peicing it back together 2

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Not really any foward steps as far as the marriage goes. We do get together and talk a few times a week. We have gone out once or twice. She is still somewhat selfish in the way she is dealing with all of this. What I mean is that she expects me to set things up for us to get together always. She never calls me to ask me to come over but on the flip of the coin she says she agrees we need to take it slow but then she says this is rediculas that we don't get together more often. She did say to me that she was ready to put her house up for sale and move back in with me and then realized that she needed to slow down as far as she and I. I try to make things convienant for her for us to get together, but I don't push it at all. I am living for myself right now and it seems to be good for me. I am content with the way things are and I would like for us to stay together but I feel as though I have made it to a point to where if we don't stay together I will be as well off either way. She has alot of debt now and this has her upset but like I told her there isn't much I can do to help her at this point, my hands have been tied by her when it comes to that. I have given her a little money but I have had her sign a paper stateing that is goes toward the seperation of marital property. I asked her the other day if she would want to go ahead and get the divorce over with so that she would get her part of the money and get herself out of debt and she said she did not want that. I told her at this point I often wonder if she wants to keep this mariage just so she would have financial stabbilty and she said she did not want me for the money. She then replied she wondered if I didn't want the divorce because she somehow has it in her mind that I would have more money if we didn't. At this point we have blown a lot of money with lawyers and 2 seprate houses and all the bills that go with that but I am not worried about the money either way. I just don't want to rush in to any thing one way or the other. I want to make sure that how ever this turns out it turns out the way it should and there is no more backing up but moving foward one way or the other.

By the way we have made an agreement... no sex outside our relationship until we both agree there is no way we are staying together. I know I will stick to this agreement and the way she acted she will too. I feel this agreement at this point in time was a good idea. Other than what I have mentioned, my life is pretty much a normal one as far as dating her. If we had never been married I would call where we are now as kinda like boyfriend girlfriend.