What is reasonable and what is not?

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I don't have much to update on with exh other than he doesn't seem to have time for our R or me lately. I have no idea if his no contact with OW is holding or not. He hasn't been around much at all.

He does his usual 'hi how are you?' text but that is about it. He has made no effort to spend time together all week. I know life is busy and we live in separate homes and have our kids, but I wish I felt like somewhat of a priority once in a while.

Wednesday I had enough and I started just giving him short answers to his texts and never initiated texting him. I wanted him to feel my irriation whether that was good or bad I didn't care. Strange thing is I never let him know exactly what was bothering me and that probably wasn't good. So now, he has not really talked to me at all.

I am sick of feeling like he has this obligation to check in on me and the baby. Big deal. He is supposed to be working on us and I don't feel that at all. But I guess he is not a mind reader and just thinks I am pissed off for some reason.

Do I tell him why I have been distant? Or just keep going like this. I know not talking is immature. I dont' know why I let my insecurities do these knee jerk reactions.