I am starting this thread because there seem to be two types of MLCer - those who want to go on being intimate with their spouses, and those, like mine, who claim to be no longer physically attracted if not actually repelled by us.
Further, of those who still want intimacy there is divided opinion [risk of STDs aside] as to whether this 'should' take place. Some seem to feel it is exploitative/unloving/cake-eating and others who feel that it keeps up an important connection. I can see both sides of this argument, but have not had to face it personally.
Now, I am not getting prurient here, I hope, but this does seem to be an important topic. Many of us feel utterly rejected and diminished by the fact that our spouses no longer desire us.
There are marriages in which sex was an issue pre-MLC and others [like mine] which were tender and passionate [or so I thought].
Does anyone here have any views/ideas on why some MLCers still want intimacy and why others are actually repelled by it?
it doesn't seem to correlate with how likely they are to return - those in both camps seem to come back - or not.
Just curious, and thought it might help both newbies and those of us who have been around a while.
It might help those whose spouses are still attracted to deal with their feelings about this.
