Sandi, thanks for the response. W this morning has been real nice, even sat next to me at the kitchen table while she read the paper. She asked if I remembered an older gentlemen that used to live near us when we were first married. He now is in assisted living at the nursing home my W works at. He remembers us very well and remembers the kids. Surprises me that my W was kind of anxious to tell me about him. As far as she giving up the OM, I have my doubts. My daughter called me from school the other day and asked for me to retrieve a paper she had saved to her laptop. While I was doing that, I checked the history, b/c the W has been laying on my D bed some evenings each week to ease her neck pain, and has been using her laptop to check her emails. Well I found 2 websites that are associated with the OM. She was looking at the city website where OM lives, and the city job website, plus the website baydreams, b/c the OM lives on the chesapeake bay in Maryland. This was a few weeks ago after what I thought was a few weeks of major improvement. I know I shouldnt have snooped, but I couldnt help myself. Now maybe she is just longing for him, but again I have my doubts. Have to tell you that my sister ran into an old friend of mine, and he asked about the D b/c he saw it in the newspaper. Apparently this friend must have talked to the IL's, b/c he said he was told that WE had been thinking about D for 2 years and decided to wait until the kids were finished high school. Yeah right! So now the W is lying to the IL's, and they are supporting her all the way. Just what I need. So she is still lying her way through everything so no one will look at her in a bad way. Well, I will take the good days with the bad, and keep plugging. Also, was at my counseling session yesterday, and my W did not reschedule from her last appt in sept. Dont know how to react to that one. Maybe I will contact the pastor that married us and ask him to talk to her about going back. Talk to you later. Thanks for all your help.
