Originally Posted By: azhira

It's not that I don't want his opinion. I value it more than anyone's. (Yes, even now. He knows me better than anyone else.) I'm just not sure how to get him to share it in a better way. Of course, I am working on my own end. ;\)




as I often say: "Men are dumb", when it comes to this sort of stuff \:D
We dont usually do well with subtleties, or vague references to methods of talking. We need specific examples

when you talk to him, you will probably reach him the best, by using very, very specific references.

in other words, saying only "you hurt my feelings when you say that", to a guy, can be felt as nothing more than an attack, if he doesnt know how to FIX it.
It might help if, along with the "it hurts me when you talk like that", you add in a very specific "but if you put it like [this], i dont mind"

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle