Oh, my dear Penny... (((HUGS))) My heart is ripping out for you right now.
Is it possible that today was just a whirlwind of emotions for some reason and that things were said that may not necessarily have been meant? Sometimes it's easy to let emotions get the best of us and to lose control and then regret it later. You've been patient this long, so give this a little bit of time to sink in and see what transpires from this.
On the other hand, if this does proceed forward as you discussed with him and you start separating things, etc., maybe that is exactly what is needed in order to get this marriage on track. I know that sounds backwards, but if you truly separate yourself from him, and the reality sets in that you are no longer going to be available for him, he may change his tune and realize once and for all what he would be losing. So this may actually be a positive thing.
Penny, don't lose hope until the end of the road is actually here. It's not over until it's over. As long as you want to hang in there and want to fight, keep fighting.
I wish so much that I could hug you right now. Consider yourself hugged from a distance. Keep your chin up, Penny. You are an amazing, strong, wonderful woman.
