impossible situation #2

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I agree....that whole "if momma ain't happy" has always rubbed me the wrong way. Selfish and crude.

Dom...I hear you on the lack of forgiveness. My H has actually said to me "I never forgive anyone for anything. It's just how I am" nice, huh? He's just got this big old heart that is 99% more fragile than the rest of the population (so he says) and it can't take being hurt. So he refuses to forgive.

I do believe forgiveness is critical in any healthy R. I don't know how to get it from someone, except by offering it freely. The Bible says He who is forgiven little loves little...in other words we have to have forgiveness for love.