ILY's & ML...no fights..this is a strange S! Help!

[Dom R]

I'm just lost. I am avoiding him tonight if he calls. I just don't know what to feel or do. Suggesting that we get help is more of the same behavior for me. And I'm TIRED of being the fixer. I'm tired of reading all the flipping books and worrying about whether he'll make a half ass effort to save us.

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What do I do???

well... if you're worried about his commitment... then how about letting him do the work this time.

and if he asks about it... tell him that.
Tell him that you've been trying to improve things between you for a long time now.
Now it's his turn.

You want to feel confident that he is serious about making things better between you two. and that you and he have the knowlege to MAKE things better between you two.

ask him what he plans to do about that



PS: oh.. i'm really glad about your whole evening
nebulous future notwithstanding... you're still very lucky, and i envy you