So sorry things are not going well. I can't say that I was in any particular mood when contacting OM. I just wanted my H out of the house so I could be on the computer and could IM the OM. If I couldn't, then I would walk around the block and take my cell phone so I could call him. Sometimes I would take a drive to the store and talk on phone. But, I perferred the computer, of course. The only time I would get anxious if people came over to visit and I was wanting time on the computer....of course, I tried not to let it show. In fact, as long as I could get my time in with OM on the computer, I was probably in a better mood. A couple of times, he had to leave and go out of to a place where there were no computers and we couldn't communicate for a couple of days......I was pretty "down" then just knowing I couldn't talk to him.
My thoughts (if she is still making contact with him) is that he is gone and she can't reach him or else one of them has pulled away and she may be "grieving" him. If she is trying to break it off, she will probably go through that grieving period. I know that makes you sick to think about it, but trust me, it isn't love....it's just the "connection"....that's all. But she will need to get through it. I hope that is what has happened. If he has pulled away.....it will probably take her longer to get over it b/c it wasn't her decision. She will feel jilted, etc.
It may not have anything to do with OM. Could be something physical.....hormone swings.....a number of things. Now, I may have appeared to be moody to my family, I don't know. Never heard them mention me being more than usual.
My time with OM was during a stressful time when our grown D had been recovering from surgery and was staying with us, plus her son. So there was not much privacy or time alone with my H. I would go to the back room where our computer is and close the door and nobody thought anything about it. They just thought I was closing out the noise. But, the truth was, I wanted privacy with my OM.
I wish I could be more helpful. If there is anything else I can answer or tell you, just let me know. Sure hope things get better. I hope she has decided to tell him bye. Like I said, if she has, I think you will see her "moody" and acting kind of depressed for a while, but she may also turn toward you more. Depends on the individual person and how involved they are with the OP and for how long. It took all of the three months for me to get over him.....by that, I mean to stop "missing" the contact with him. I think about him sometimes, but it is different now.
Let me hear from you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
