He's on Match.com

[Trixi]

Hot topic!
Okay- let me first get to the match.com question; he did the 2 check boxes and I think he did something in the body of the text, but I can't go look since it registers me having viewed his profile. It does start out "looking to meet attractive, single woman..." AND, he's been on within the last 24 hours (just making note--this time it's not because I have looked at his profile.)

Roller coaster going back down. He called a little bit ago and said that he didn't know what he wanted to do tonight; that he was feeling poopy. A little banter back and forth and I then I say "Did you accidentally say I could go with you when you didn't mean to?" and he was like "I don't know." *sigh* Convo mutates into him saying that he doesn't know why he is making this so hard on the both of us. I ask if he means globally or just for tonight. He says globally.

He asks "Isn't this hard on you? Don't you wonder why I make this so difficult?"
Me" yes, it is hard. but I think we have two different view points regarding the "difficult" thing."
H "what do you mean?"
Me "I say to myself "He always comes back- why does he have to make this so difficult.""
H..silence while he thinks "Ah. Gotcha. You think about me always coming back." (I happen to know that his view point is that we always end up to the point where he wants to leave; mine is that he always wants to come back.)

He drops that subject, goes back to not knowing what he wants to do tonight. I said "Well, I might want to go anyway." He was quiet and I said "Unless you want to claim custody of going there" and he said "I don't know. I don't know what I want. Let me go to this other thing [a work thing] and see how I feel. I'll call you later." Oh, I forgot--somewhere in there was a bone he threw me regarding us doing something tomorrow night.."maybe".

*sigh* I sense that he is feeling inclined to just pull the plug. And why can't *I* just have the strength to do that?

What kind of wife knowingly says "ok" to her husband going out on random dates?(Of course I did not out and out say "ok", but I am basically saying that by saying nothing else.) What kind of wife KNOWS her husband has a profile on match.com (that he actively checks) and still goes out with him, sleeps with him, etc. I believe he is not having sex elsewhere, but I think that is only because he hasn't found that "special someone" and if he did find that person, I would be dropped without a second thought. I am a good "for now" gal.