Originally Posted By: azhira

What I've been trying to say, gently before, was that, maybe this is one of the reasons your W has distanced herself from you...?


i absolutely agree. She's said so, and I've acknowleged it.

the sad part is, though.. as I've said.. i havent done that kind of thing for 5 years.

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When xh told me he didn't like my shoes the other day...well..I told him not to complain, as we're not married. ;\)


aha.. but you implicitly acknowlege that if you WERE still married, then he'd have a say in it! \:\)

I'm not saying that husbands have a right to control their wives bodies, btw.
I am saying, that husbands should feel entitled to express thoughts of, "I'd really like it if you would (alter some aspect of their appearance)", and that a caring wife, would then try to do something about it.
If she doesnt, it's his responsability to deal with it still.
But she really should do something about it, if she wants him to be happy about how she looks ;\) Or, heck, just to make him happy.

and the same goes for reversed gender "looks" stuff. a husband should choose to look nice and smell nice for his wife. no?

Sigh.. I cant shut up about this, may as well get it out... here's the additional complication...
If a wife complains that she doesnt get compliments from her husband about her looks... and her husband says, "well, the thing is, I dont like how you look right now... but if you changed [....], i think you would look great..."... but she refuses... shouldnt she then basically lose the moral right to complain about getting compliments from her husband in that area? Unless she just wants him to lie, i guess? \:\)

PS: sorry Agent... it's.. kinda on topic... \:D

Last edited by Dom R; 10/26/07 11:32 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle