We're not exactly where I would like us to be yet. Yes we are having fun playing and teasing but we are not where I would like us to be communication wise. I wish I were able to get IC to open up to me more. He has things locked away in his mind that while I guess it's ok if he feels he needs to keep them there, I just wish he was comfortable enough with me to share.
It also saddens me to think that just a few short months ago, we were discussing a divorce and I was fully prepared to let him go. Where we are now and where we were then seems worlds apart but in reality we are just a few months removed from basically the early stages of divorce.
Hm. Honey. Were I you, I'd spend some time emailing back and forth with your hubby. We girls... are.... SOOOOO determined to get into the mind's of our men. "But how are you FEELING?"
They don't... think like we do, act like we do, talk like we do, FEEL like we do. They are men.
And we are women, and thus... things get a little... confusing. Especially when we've been together for awhile.
Quite honestly, I think the very BEST thing you could do, for your M, and understanding your H... is to hang out here for awhile, and read other men's threads, not just your H's. You will soon realize, he isn't so different than most men. In understanding other men, you will go a long way in understanding your own H.
By hanging out here with the HD/LD ladies, you will go a long way in understanding yourself. You are half of the R, and you are contributing to half of its success and half of its failure. If you have the courage to own that, you will go a very long way in understanding yourself and your M... and the confusing, utterly perplexing world of men.
Quite honestly, you have a communicator on your hands. He showed up here first. He's willing to talk... but in his own way. Accept him, and his methods, for what they are, like you do with a child. KWIS? Not that men are children, but you accept a child when they show you who they are, and work with what they show you. That's pretty much how men are. They don't really BS you. They may not know how to say what it is you need to hear, but in their minds, they are being PERFECTLY CLEAR. "How many times do I have to say it?!" Sound familiar?
I give you all the kudos in the world for stepping up to the plate, honey. Major kudos. You are one cool chick. Mr. IC is one lucky man.
