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[Dom R]

Reply to Azhira:
[...]Oh...Dom...any chance you are somehow unhappy with your own W looks??

Azhira, there is a big difference, between a husband bugging his wife to "look like a fitness model", vs a husband asking his wife to look after her body better.
Demanding the first, is a huge commitment of time, and effort, and pain to put upon his wife, and isnt particularly beneficial to her either.
Asking the second, isnt that much. particularly IF he is willing to make it some kind of shared fun activity. PLUS, it is beneficial.
Just because the "bug about being a supermodel" is bad, doesnt make ALL issues over appearance/looks bad.

For the record: yes, I was unhappy about it, and bugged my wife about how she looked, for years. I wasnt asking her to "be a fitness model", though. I was asking her to get in shape, both for looks, and health reasons. She was 50-80 pounds overweight, and most of her family is diabetic. I would have been overjoyed if she just lost half of it, and stayed under 200 pounds.

It really hurt me, that she would do virtually NOTHING for me, as far as the way she looked, whether that be body, clothes, or hair. She made some efforts before we got married... but afterwards.. she chopped her hair short, she ate even worse and gained more weight, and she would almost never wear clothes that I liked her to wear. (while at the same time, getting pissy at me, when I didnt dress the way SHE wanted ME to dress)

So... I have some history, of being a husband frustrated with a wife who refuses to take care of her body. It really used to tear at me sometimes, that she even knew it was important to me, and she chose not to do anything, or even deliberately do the opposite sometimes.

She told me that she didnt want to be nagged about it. If I had not done so, but said nothing, ... it still would have bugged me. Perhaps more so, since I would not feel "allowed" to express my unhappiness at the situation.

I havent asked her about that stuff for over 5 years. The physical looks aspect, doesnt matter to me so much any more... it's more just about her health that I worry.
But it's interesting to note, that once she moved out.. THEN she decided to lose some weight, and make her hair nice, and dress nicer...
another slap in the face to me, that it wasnt that she couldnt.. she just didnt think ME important enough to do it. But once she had a different man that interested her.. she did it all.
I still enjoy that she looks much prettier now, and complement her on it. Yet it still hurts sometimes, that she could have done this while we were living together, but chose not to.

Something to think about... because even if you ladies dont see yourselves acting with those motivations... if you arent choosing to look like a way that your man prefers... the man in your life may wonder, "well, if she wont do it for ME... is it just because *I* am not important enough to her to do it?"