That leaves me with two scenarios. One: Your H realized he was being an idiot, and decided (voluntarily) he needed to back off. (Unlikely, but possible.) Two: He didn't realize it, and either is hiding deeper or she cut him off.
I actually think option one is the most likely. Maybe my comment to him about him seeming particularly vulnerable right now struck a chord?
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I cant imagine why you would possibly divide your family like that. even the first time, let alone again, given all your past troubles. If your sister knew about the problems 5 years ago, she's the one who should be getting the 2x4, for even suggesting such a trip without your husband.
Actually, we take plenty of vacations together. H also takes vacations by himself (surf expeditions and mountain climbing guy things). I almost never take trips by myself - these were very special occasions. And my kids are almost grown, so why would it be a problem to go on this trip? And I already took the trip - which was fabulous - so no cancelling it!
My sister knows nothing about our problems, my family never knew about H's infidelity, and I think that's good - they would have had too much trouble forgiving him. Reconciliation was easier without that issue.
Interestingly, watched The Hoax the other night with H. A movie about Clifford Irving, an author who perpetrated a swindle in the 70's with a fictional autobiography of Howard Hughes. The main character had an affair, he and his wife reconciled, and a year later, at the time of the movie, the OW calls him up and invites him over. You see the character struggle with the temptation, he finally calls her, ends up in bed with her. W finds out and H is remorseful, but too late. Then later, H pays a woman to sleep with his drunk best friend to keep him from backing out of the scheme; friend is devastated the next morning when he wakes and realizes he cheated on his wife.
H commented on how manipulative this guy was, how bad that was. I think the scenes where the wife is really hurt finding out he strayed again hit H - and the OW turned out to be manipulative and scheming too.
