I would love to get to a place with my H that you and IC are now at...the fun, the play, the teasing...but right now, sex is serious business for us. Not all the time, mind you, but we have some major marital damage to overcome.

We're not exactly where I would like us to be yet. Yes we are having fun playing and teasing but we are not where I would like us to be communication wise. I wish I were able to get IC to open up to me more. He has things locked away in his mind that while I guess it's ok if he feels he needs to keep them there, I just wish he was comfortable enough with me to share.

It also saddens me to think that just a few short months ago, we were discussing a divorce and I was fully prepared to let him go. Where we are now and where we were then seems worlds apart but in reality we are just a few months removed from basically the early stages of divorce \:\(

The last 2 nights I wanted to do the teasing thing, but my H was really insistent about following it through, so I went along. I don't want him feeling frozen out like he has in the past, but he doesn't quite get that if you build up to things, it can be even better. And personally, I like the feeling of having the tingles and not acting on it...that build desire in me.

The good news is that H and I are talking about all this, which is something we could never do in the past.

Uuuuugh, this so sounds like IC ! Playing and teasing for him always had to lead to sex. So much so that it got to the point with me that I felt it was just sex. It was like IC just needed to unload (no pun intended \:D ) and it did not matter if it was with me or with some $10 hooker (he never went this route, but that is how it felt). I followed through like this for a while but finally it got to the point of me shutting him out.

I'm glad you're at a point with you H that you can talk about this. That is sooooo important and I think it will make it easier for you two to get there. I feel for IC for making a go at this basically by himself with no help from me.

IC can be openly talk about this, again, I just wish he would open up about other things \:\/

BTW, it is really good for all of us here to see two people get on the right track together. You were in tune with your H enough to find him here, and you share your H's sense of humor. You really are a good sport...now go beat him senseless, lol.

I'm not sure if that is a compliment or not on sharing IC's sense of humor... he is a sick, sick boy \:D Sorry hon, I meant to say "Man"

It's really good to talk with you. Judging by your posts, I really like you \:\)

OK, I'm getting ready to leave work so I can go home and beat my "boy's" azz \:D