He's on Match.com

[Trixi]

Thankfully, my H is not one to say bad things about me. Not like that, at least. He might complain that I am too introverted or that I protected my daughter too much, or I let my mother bully me, or I am not aggressive enough when I drive--but he generally does not compare me to others,per se. Luckily, also, H doesn't like REALLY thin women. He likes some meat and curves. He really likes Beyonce'.

OT, those are GREAT ideas. I totally see where you are going with that; those are very much out of the box and are more appealing than "go to gym and walk on treadmill" blech.

Dom, you know that I know about MB and all that goes with it. I totally "get" the attractive spouse being a need. And, for the most part, I try to meet that need. It could be that what he really wants is a woman that knows how to do various sports things that he likes to do.

I think that we are not agreeing on whether or not to tell him, with a subtext of whether or not I will commit to a fitness program. After reading what Azhira's H would expect, I feel damn lucky. And also like it is actually "doable" to meet that desire for my H, assuming that *is* his desire.

I called H to talk car with him (turns out we might *not* be any closer to getting a car) and near the end of the convo I said "So, Such and So place tonight to see Friend?" and he said "yeah...I don't know. I don't feel so good right now." (Still hung over from last night.) He then proceeded to tell me what he did and reiterated just how shocked he was to find out it was 3am-he thought it was more like 1am. Anyway, bummer about tonight (maybe). I might just go without him. Phhhlllp.