I have to say...I've run into this 'perfect body' thing with my xh. And it really bugs. (As I've said before, I love working out. But I do it for me.)

I look pretty good. I am a size 4. Do I have my pre-pregnancy figure? No. But I'm working on it. I worked out a lot, and was in good shape. Was I fitness model shape? Of course not. xh used to make comments about that. "She has better defined abs." Or "She has nice glutes. That would look great on you." Or "Maybe you should try blond."

While I am game for trying new things...once dyed my hair, but swore I'd never damage it like that again...the repetition grew thin. I looked good. Too bad for him he was at the gym all day, and could compare me to whomever. He was looking for perfection where it wasn't going to be. I flat out told him, I wasn't willing to make that kind of crazy insane commitment that it takes to get fitness-model good-looking.

And let's be honest. I did weights twice a week, an hour at a time. I did cardio four times a week: jogged a mile, 30 minutes on a bike, 15 on elliptical. Plus, whatever active outdoor activity I felt like on the weekends. I was in better shape than 90+% of the people I knew. Still...wasn't 'good enough' for xh.

Guess my point is...99, work out because it's good for you, and will make you feel good. If it's the be all and end all of a M, then pfff on that. \:\) I don't want that guy. It would just make me feel like sh!t to listen to all day.

Oh...Dom...any chance you are somehow unhappy with your own W looks??

Azhira

my confusion