You are obsessed with the first typewritten word that came out of 99's H's mouth when he threw together an online profile, probably when he was drunk. Did he say, THE OVERRIDINGLY MOST IMPORTANT THING TO ME IN A WOMAN IS A TIGHT BOD NOT BIGGER THAN SIZE 2??? I don't think so. And, if he did, then 99 must meet his ideal (whatever it is) as he keeps going back to her.
Of course one should work on oneself and take a spouse's wishes into account, when one is in a partnership. But, first, 99 and H aren't really in a partnership. Should you change your habits/interests/looks, act like someone you aren't to get someone to go on a date with you? I'd say not if you seek an authentic R.
Second, when I take my H's wishes into account, I select among them, sometimes I try to adjust my tastes, but I change myself and my behavior when the motivation to do so COMES FROM WITHIN. Changes must be authentic to be lasting and to feel good.
Losing a few pounds may/may not be good for 99. I certainly don't know. She may think she has 30 pounds to lose because she weighs 30 pounds more than a model her height. She may think she has 30 pounds to lose when she has a 100 pounds. I HAVE NO IDEA. The weight loss may/may not make her more attractive to H. It certainly will not be the magic bullit that saves her M.
But none of this is here nor there. My point is that 99 needs to focus on HERSELF. She needs to be the best 99 she can be in a way that works for HER. If that doesn't work for her H, then yeah, too bad. But it for sure the best way to attract him back.
You keep making this all about her H and then broadcasting to him that it is all about him is not good for 99 or her M.
