OK, you aren't projecting. I still think you are blowing 99's H's mention of fitness out of proportion.
Moreover, and more important, even if you are right, 99 still needs to make choices that work for her, pursue fitness (or not), for HERSELF. If her H won't take her back as she is, a healthy energetic attractive woman, then TOO BAD FOR HIM.
I appreciate that you are trying to motivate. But trust me, your tactics right now would motivate very few women indeed.
