Unfortunately, her actions towards your children, vs what she thinks about your children, may not match up.

To me, her words are very clearly saying, "if I ever file divorce against you, i expect you to not fight me if I file for sole physical and legal custody".

Note that that is not the same thing as "them being with her all the time". You can still have "visitation/custody schedules", even when she has "sole custody".
What "sole physical and legal custody"means, is that her house is effectively "their home", and she is the first last and only word, when it comes to making any kind of legal decisions about them. Whether that be medical choices, where they go to school, where they will live in the future, ....

It's all about this phrase:


that you will not fight me about matters concerning the kids


If you took that out, and everything else was there. fine.
However... what I see from my perspective, is that the entire email is just a delivery system for that one phrase.

Note: not "that we wont fight about the kids".
But "you will not fight me about..."

ie: she is boss over any and all "matters concerning the kids", and she is validating with you, that you agree with that statement.

Last edited by Dom R; 10/26/07 07:56 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle