He's on Match.com

[Dom R]

OT: her husband put it, as the #1 thing he mentioned on his dating profile.

This isnt "Dom projecting".

Indeed, in almost all cases, even a MALE spouses unhappiness with a partner's appearance that doesn't trace to health or interference with other activities has more to do with other issues.

not sure what you are making that claim on. I've seen that claim for women plenty of times, but never for men.
Even if it were true though... I would bet it applies to "normal" men. Not married men looking to date, and/or going through MLC.
He is being totally shallow, based on what agent99 posted from his profile!

For the record: i totally agree that he has "internal issues" to deal with, and that the separation is not entirely about the way that she looks.
however, that being said: it is still a majorly important area to him.
Getting rid of the smoke, will mean that he has to focus more on what is lacking from HIM.

Right now, I think he is focused on what he thinks is lacking from agent99.


Women who are going to be hopping up and down wanting to jump on me about this, please try to remember: This is NOT about what YOU think is important. This is about what her H (and many, MANY other men) think is important.

Men and women want different things.

To start with the marriagebuilders list of "10 emotional needs":

Admiration, Affection, Conversation, Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Financial Support, Honesty and Openness, Physical Attractiveness, Recreational Companionship and Sexual Fulfillment.

Many men commonly pick sexual fulfillent and physical attractiveness, as their top, or close to top, "needs".

Unfortunately, I cant find an online reference for that.
However, from

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/printer_friendly.cfm?recno=4&sublink=31&subsublink=228


it does at least confirm that, from the thousands of men Dr. Harley has seen, the usual "top 5" out of those 10, are,
Recreational Companionship, Physical Appearance, Admiration, Domestic Support, and Sexual Fulfillment

Thus, appearance, is consistantly in the top 5, if not top 3.


That's not to say that all men are that way. and most of the men actually posting here, probably are not. But statistically speaking, most men in our society apparently are.