I fear that Dom may be projecting here a bit on your H. I don't think that your losing a few pounds is the be-all end-all of your M. I don't think that AT ALL.
Indeed, in almost all cases, even a MALE spouses unhappiness with a partner's appearance that doesn't trace to health or interference with other activities has more to do with other issues.
Anyway, the importance of your fitness regime to your M has been blown all out of proportion IMHO. It is great that Dom is trying to motivate you, but HE is the one making it all about H and your M.
One sure thing is that weight loss/fitness programs that aren't simply all about YOU for the sake of YOURSELF are bound to fail.
Love yourself, challenge yourself, you'll be OK. So, if you want to find motivation, write down a list of things you love and figure out how to challenge yourself physically with respect to those things.
Books? Can you spend a whole day browsing, having coffee, and walking between used bookstores?
Nature? I bet you have NO IDEA of the number of parks around you with great walking circuits.
Animals/do-gooding? Can you walk pets at the ASPCA?
