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[Dom R]

, yes, I have avoided answering directly whether or not I am committed because I don't want to be held accountable. How's THAT for honesty?

honesty is good

What is it Dr Phil says? The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior..something like that. I know where my weaknesses are- and this is one of them.

There's multiple ways to take that quote. It can be useful in multiple contexts.
But I dont think that it EVER is intended to say, "i failed at X before: therefore, I will always fail at X".
I think rather, that it is originally intended to help you guess how others are going to behave in the future, (since you are neither a mind-reader, nor a mind-controller, so you can only "guess")


In the context of examining oneself, however: it can be used as a reminder, or a tool, to help folks more carefully re-examine their behaviour, without changing their goals. Note that it talks about behaviour, not goals.
I think the complimentary version of it, is the lesser known,
"Insanity is repeating the same thing, and expecting different results".

In that vein: If you tried doing [Y], to achieve [X], and you failed at [X]... and then you "tried harder" at doing [Y], and you still failed at [X].... then it's probably time to look at reaching [X] through some other method.

If you really do want to "get in shape"... you've already tried the "pick a specific activity, and stick to it forever" approach. It failed. I think we can be pretty sure that trying that same approach, is going to end up with the same results sooner or later.

If you want to get in shape, and stay that way, then you will probably have to approach it differently than you did before.

I think that, if you really wanted to achieve that goal, and thereby committed to the GOAL rather than the activity, ... then it could work for you.


I read you pretty well about your evasion on it, after all, didnt I?


Part of what gets you to commit to something and follow through, is telling someone, and being accountable for it. Which is why you havent done that so far, after all. So that would most likely be another important part for you to achieve the goal, rather than quit after a month.


Make sense?