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[Trixi]

Geez, Dom, you are starting to turn ME off exercise with this pressure and it isn't even directed toward me.

99, I wouldn't tell H about your exercise/health plans. If he is interested, he can ask. If you tell him, then it will just blast to him that you are still making everything about him. It is actually an intrustion and pressure and grasping.

Make your world about YOU.

Cross posted--thanks OT. I was beginning to feel like a weirdo because my resistance was increasing.

I get the feeling that one reason you dont want to tell him, is that you are afraid of making the commitment. If you tell him. (or "us" here), then maybe it feels like an real commitment that you cant just give up on easily. Whereas at the moment, seems like you're not committed to do it. I say that, because you have avoided my question multiple times now, about "are you going to commit to regular excercise?"

Yes, one reason I don't want to tell him is that, at this moment, I do NOT feel committed. And, yes, I have avoided answering directly whether or not I am committed because I don't want to be held accountable. How's THAT for honesty?

I was thinking it would appear manipulative if I told him- I can also agree with OT that it would be pressure, etc.

Is a part of you, trying to talk yourself out of making a commitment, because you "failed before"?

What is it Dr Phil says? The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior..something like that. I know where my weaknesses are- and this is one of them.