Your killin' me man...it's like I'm looking into a mirror. If you ever have the patience, scroll through some of my old theads. It is unreasonable, undifferentiated anger. It is whack-a-mole...you thing the issue is solved and it just comes out differently. Don't expect this to change. I'm sorry about that, but she probably was angry long before she knew you...about something or many things. My W. once told a counsleor we saw in 2003: "I saw Dr. Phil on Oprah, and he asked "Would you rather be right or happy?" She said "I can't tell the difference" It is beyond frustrating. I haven't gotten a sorry in 20 years either, and you know what...it takes its toll...We become almost "Abused spouses". Sooner or later, if they don't actually take a hard look in the mirror, we have to ask ourselves: "Is this what I really want for the rest of my life?" It is a "Catch 22" I don't want my angry, vitriolic unforgiving unrepentent wife back, but that may not change.
How old are your kids? My 17 year old said to me on the phone the other night: "You need to see the upside of divorce, Dad. If mom is happy, we're all happy, because the whole family feeds off of Mom's emotions" They know she's a powder keg. Your kids may not see it if they're younger, but my 14 and 17 year old do.
