One day at a time, #3

[nephartiti]

You have to have some control. You are a mother with children. You are not controlling him. If you caved, he would be controlling you.

H: You are controlling by not giving me money
translation: You are not letting me control you.

I think it would be a good gesture to pay his car payment and insurance this month. If things are not better a couple weeks before they are due again, you should give a heads up that he will have to pay them.

You, my dear, are engaged in a power struggle. Be careful not to be vindictive, which is easy when one is angry. Also be careful not to be taken advantage of. Be calm, reasonable, and clear headed before you make any decisions. If you are hurt or angry, put yourself on a tight leash. No knee jerk reactions, only necessary, well thought out actions.