Last night at 8:30, I called to say good night to the boys and discovered that S8 had left his bike at school. So, I picked it up, put it into the garage, and texted W what I had done. She texted back that I could come in if I wanted to. She was nearly asleep, so I said good night and closed her door. I then tucked in S6 and S8 and spent 30 minutes reading to S11 before quietly leaving.
This morning, I get this email from W:
I was thinking last night about how nice the trust is between us (and hence that the kids witness). I was thinking about my getting sleepy and you arriving to see me asleep and the boys not yet asleep. I could have jumped up because you arrived to demonstrate that I could but I didn't care to or feel the need to. I didn't feel I needed to prove anything to you.
We know that the other is a great diligent parent and that we have 3 high-achieving kids. We trust the other and want the kids to know that we trust the other. I just assume that even if we enter a divorce settlement in the future, that you will not fight me about matters concerning the kids and that you would never use my behaviors against me and nor would I use yours against you -- ie, that it just wouldn't get dirty.
Isn't that so great? I'm so proud of us!
Love ya! deb
She seems to basically be looking for reassurance from me that I will not fight her in a custody battle. Should I even respond to her email? I will see her tonight when I pick up the kids and imagine that if I don’t respond she will mention something about it.
Thoughts?
Me-46;W-42 Together 23 yrs Married 16 S11 S8 S6 02/10/03 Her 1st affair 10/01/06 Sep Bomb 01/01/07 Sep Begins 03/09/07 Her 2nd affair
