Mixed signals - catfan's continual saga part???

[catfan]

Mixed signals are so, so, so much fun! Yes I love them to death, I can't wait until the next mixed signal I get. I wait with baited breath!

OK so what has gotten me saying all of that? A long conversation from last night. My wife got back from being out of town and she called to talk with the girls and me last night. I mentioned we needed to sit down at some point and discuss the sep agreement comments she sent me on Tuesday. She said let's talk now. So we did. Turns out we are pretty much in agreement on everything still some questions and concerns over some specific legal language.

This lead to a discussion about our relationship. While discussing the agreement she'd make relationship comments. So I instigated a full on relationship discussion. She didn't really fight it either. Once again it's back to she wanting me to "take charge" and "provide for the family". This is where I start to get a little frustrated because how can I do those things she's asking if we are separated? She was silent on that comment. But we kept talking about everything. She making the same comments as most previous talks, wanting more time with the kids, less financial responsibility for the family, me to step up, etc. Interestingly she acknowledge in a round about manner that being separated was sending us both in the exact opposite direction of what we want. (I originally made this comment.) I pressed her a bit and she finally gave me as close to an admission of her wants as she has ever given. She wants me to be the provider, she wants me to speak her love languages, she wants these things so we can be back together as a family. But she's still at a point that she's not willing to specifically say all of that. When I asked her directly about this all she said I don't know. I asked if what I understood from her words, actions and attitudes was correct, that she wants me to be the provider, wants me to show her love, she wants to feel love from me and wants us back together as a family. Her response, yes I have a good understanding of her wants. So I guess that's as good an admission as I'll ever get! Now to just resolve this damn job situation!