I’ve been on the “We’re separated” forum for over a year now, with the last 10 months being on active duty with the Army ,and the last three of those in Iraq. Short recap: separated in September 06, volunteered to be activcted and go to Iraq. Drastic, but you’re all here and you may understand. I never regret being here.
Of course, I gave my W. general power of attorney because as you may know, bad things can a happen to good people in Iraq. Anyway, she continues to be short and angry, even a year later.
Here’s the bottom line: when we separated, I played the dutiful role of martyr, and agreed to move into a garage apartment with no stove 5 miles from my old $700K house while she and my three kids stayed there. I heard from my son that W. is now remodeling the basement (on my tax free salary, hazardous duty and separation pay).
I really feel that as soon as I get home, she will finally file. I strung it out as long as I can. I don’t want to go back to having my kids seeing me living in a garage apartment, but continue to be paralyzed by doing radical things that may push her off the cliff and file immediately.
What I want to do is to get a nice apartment and some furniture when I return, without feeling guilty. I have a good friend here who recommended I just go purchase about 20K worth of furniture and a new apartment when I return and not tell her anything? Any suggestions?
I don’t want to push her off a cliff, but I don’t want to live like a homeless vet when I return and she’s in my now $800K house with my kids. I feel guys get scre$ed all the time in this stuff.
