I think your W is experiencing Guilt and Shame. Stubborn pride is a horrible thing. I think a lot of WAS's will keep going, even when they realize it is a horrible mistake, simply because they can't admit that it was, in fact, a mistake.
I agree. She is confused.
I think you already have become the chooser. Same with you, lwb. It is already up to you.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9