Maybe he is able to say these things because he doesn't mean it but he knows it will lift HER day if she is down. Maybe that's why he cannot see why you are upset with the contact - because to him it is an absolute no brainer - there's no way he is interested in her.
He probably doesn't realise quite what a huge whack your confidence has taken with all that has gone before - it took ages for my H to understand that, (and I am not sure he does now). I am beginning to get the feeling from what you are saying that this is completely meaninglesss to your H which is why he can't see it as a big problem. He doesn't understand that he is leading her on or hurting you because in his mind it is not even something he would contemplate.
Think about this. I flirt and joke and have fun on the boards at times. Now if that was read by some people they might think I meant it, (Sorry husband, theo etc... ). We all know this is a pro marriage site and it's just a bit of joking to raise our PMA's but someone else reading the threads might conclude something different. I have chatted to some people in the 'group' that I chat to on here about the possibility of flying over and meeting up - I don't mean romantically. I think your H's intentions are probably miles away from what you / I think they are. this is just dawning on me; that's why maybe he can't see why it's a big deal.
Does this make sense?
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
). We all know this is a pro marriage site and it's just a bit of joking to raise our PMA's but someone else reading the threads might conclude something different. I have chatted to some people in the 'group' that I chat to on here about the possibility of flying over and meeting up - I don't mean romantically. I think your H's intentions are probably miles away from what you / I think they are. this is just dawning on me; that's why maybe he can't see why it's a big deal.
