Thanks for your input. The stories do show some hope that it can sometimes turn around, even after D. If you read my sitch and see what happened, it would be nothing short of a miracle if we ever reconciled. Besides feeling betrayed, I also have to deal with the tremendous guilt for the financial problems I caused.
It is hard to look back and now see what I should have done to change things around. I lost my W's trust and respect because I hadn't grown up and took control. The guilt is so intense especially when I see my D5 & S4 then have to bring them back.
I wish our problems were not so drastic that we could find our way back. I am certain that once the D is final, she will be gone forever because she will never look at me any other way except for the person that deprived her being a wife, mother(of 3 but we only have 2), loved and content.
Why didn't I wake up sooner...
Me: 41 W: 40 D5, S4 Bomb Dropped: 7/8/2007 Status: W has moved out with kids 8/25/2007