I understand where you are coming from. The problem with W is that she has caused so much damage for herself with her family and mine, that I don't think she can ever get into a frame of mind of coming back. She is so stubborn and has the biggest ego, that she would rather continue on this path than admitting that she may have been wrong.
She also knows that what she has done I will find really hard to forgive (re PA with OM). I remember when I told her several months ago that "things happen" and that I would always forgive her, she responded with "Yeah, sure you will" (sarcastic tone, as she knows me too well).
Also, I am pretty scared that if she does decide to come back, how will I react? Sure I am there for her now, knowing she is not coming back, but what happens when I am placed in the drivers seat when she decideds that she does want to come back into the R? That is what scares me the most.
Beggars can't be choosers, but what happens when the beggar becomes the chooser?
