Time for healing without closing the door

[mkultra]

Hmm, this is a sticky sitch because of your D6. Normally, I would say to stay with the status quo and to keep things consistent when it comes to kids' schedules. One of my divorce manuals, maybe Marriage Builders, says it is very positive to agree to everything because ournatural inclination is to fight. You want your H to see the kids more and I want my H to see the kids according to my schedule. I always put the ball into my H's court and am prepared to agree with boundaries. Ask your H about his schedule and about the concert but be prepared to agree. You will win more in the long run if you agree as long as the boundaries are set. No way do I want my kids to have overnights with Daddy now. he is way too screwed up and unstable. But I have a toddler too. AND I am a teacher and I believe students need to have one primary home for their study skills and grades. I would give up a third of non school nights so that my kids will be home for school nights.