A lot of times, that's how a lot of things are -- they have to get worse before they can get better.

I've been feeling a bit more spunky as to my whole sitch as well. It's wonderful when we are finally happy w/ ourselves and can kind of be like "you're lucky to have me and if you can't see that, so be it."

As to being a "conflict avoider," even once you decide to take a conflict head on, there are different approaches you can take to either have the outcome be what you want it to be or to just end up being a huge, big, old fight and/or ugly mess.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10