I think you have hit on something there, I am very torn, I do love my H and I want to be married to him, but I am also so hurt and saddened by all of this. I worry that this really has put so much damage on us that we can never really truly recover the marriage to what it should be. I also sometimes feel so angry that I do want it over, I just find myself so very torn! and damaged!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!