Lets try thing again!!!!

[Heartbroken]

I understand where you are coming from but also feel you need to slow down. I too don't want H to be back for me or the kids or b/c it's the right thing to do - I WANT HIM TO WANT ME!!!!

But we need to give this all time - it has only been 3 mos for you since your July bomb - hell that is not to long. You need to look at where you were a year ago and HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME. You have made amazing strides - how many H's out there WILL NOT even talk about their A, consider going to a Retro weekend or even try to dialogue on a daily basis!!!!

You seem to be wanting to push him out - this may end the immediate pain but not end it overall!!!

Step back take a look at your whole big picture and they many positives you do have...

You cannot solve all these open remaining issues in one fell swoop you will quit before even trying. Take the top issue(s) and see how to break them down to get through them, baby steps and one day at a time.

You are letting your fear, your anger and your sadness take control of you - don't do it. You need to get into the present moment and work from there, the past is done and you cannot control the future. You can only work on today! And I KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

HB