FLTC What good will blowing it all up do? I threatened to take the person hitting on my X into the middle of a street and beat him publicly. Given half a chance I'd still do it but back then it would have made no difference and now I'd get fed by my buddies who work at the jail and PD. In my case revenge is a dish best served cold and the bible has something to say about revenge.
What good will do you and your kids if all your money is turned over to the W?
By focusing on W back in the states how does that impact your job? Would detaching and saving for a rainy day take care of the now?
The DB book talks about the runaway mind. It does you no good. Sorry I've been in your boots and yes they do stink.