More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

I think the biggest issue with our R is that we lost focus on us. Normal life happens right? Kids, work, chores etc. Now someone else comes into the picture and all of those distractions are outside of the scope of the new R. Everything is idealistic and wonderful.

I have to agree with this. Suddenly all of life's responsibilities have been cleared up. Funny enough when W and OM were discussing HOW they would manage certain things (kids, work, etc.) they couldn't come up with any clear ideas. That didn't stop them of course - they were living in a dream world anyway. Maybe that's why A's tend to fizzle. They realize that things are no better, and maybe even worse, than they were with the spouse.