RHW - I added those two sentences into my final paragraph and will discuss this with IC on Monday. Unfortunately, IC can't see me until after Thanksgiving due to his existing schedule and going in for surgery in a week or two. I will ask him to put me on a 'standby list' if a slot opens up before then.
IC did warn me from the outset that his approach to my sitch would result in more conflict before anything could get better - that I need to get my 'inner bitch' back. Being a natural conflict avoider throughout my life, this would be a true 180 for me. It scares me - and emboldens me at the same time. I think IC's reaction will be a very positive one - and I am ready for whatever W throws my way.
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Being a natural conflict avoider throughout my life, this would be a true 180 for me. It scares me - and emboldens me at the same time. I think IC's reaction will be a very positive one - and I am ready for whatever W throws my way. 
