Lawyer shock.....

[RedHeadWife]

I don't know if I could stay w/ my H if he actually said to me "you're an F'ing loser." That would honestly be IT for me. I also would not want my H to stay just b/c a D would *cost* him a lot.

Also, I would not want to be in an M where I was actually be sweared at and yelled at. That would NOT be acceptable, period, in my book.

If you honestly still love him, at this point, I think I would sit him down and gently, quietly tell him: I love you and I would like to work out our M, but I will NEVER put up w/ the yelling, swearing, calling me names, etc. again. Period. Dot.

That's so out of line and NOT something I would allow. If he truly loves you, he would realize how hurtful this is and quit. I don't know if you will be able to get past it though. In my experience, there are certain things that H said to me that come back every so often and I don't know if H was actually cruel to me and called me a F'ing loser that I would be able to ever look at him the same again.

That's just my opinion. If you can get past what he has done, and you both still love each other and are willing to work on things, then great, but I think RIGHT NOW you need to put your foot down as hard as you can as to his actions toward you. You need to get across that you will not put up w/ that anymore or you will leave.