Time for healing without closing the door

[SallyM]

okay, I just said I didn't have time, but d3 calmed down a bit.

I've been so excited about this book I am reading, and honestly, I think it could help you, too. telling your H it is over is definitely a crucial conversation. I'll admit I cringed when you said telling h is going to be hard because he is going to be so crushed...I'm the one usually on the other end of tough conversations like that, and know my h dreads me looking crushed/getting emotional.

if you can get your hands on a copy, it might help you figure out a good way (or as good as it can get) to tell your h you want a divorce.

assuming, of course, that you really do. and if you do, I see no need for you to take him to the concert. I see no need for you to socialize. I do see you as needing to figure out the best way to co-parent. that should be your priority. and having a friendly relationship with your h could help that, but it doesn't mean you need to be friends with him.

I honestly don't think separation is a bad thing...you don't have to dive right into divorce if you aren't completely sure. in fact, my personal belief is that you don't divorce until you are sure its the right thing to do, not just self-preservation (unless there is violence, of course). I'm not judging your decision here, just wanting you to really give it some thought.

good luck, and take care of yourself.